Mothers of Survivors


Surviving The Fire

On March 7, 1999 my husband, six sons, and I faced an unimaginable tragedy. We awoke to a 4

alarm house fire that resulted in the death of our 22-month twin son, severe injuries to myself

and the other twin, and the complete loss of all of our earthly possessions. The road to recovery

was long and hard. By the grace of God, we survived.

They Needed Me

In the beginning I threw all of my energy into the recovery of my five surviving children. All of

my effort was spent trying to make sure that they were stable, happy, and secure. I totally

ignored my state as a survivor with the exact same needs I assumed the role of Caretaker. I was

the Mother. Translation – the responsible one. The harder I worked the worst I felt as a Mom.

Something Was Missing

I was pouring out everything that I had inside. The problem was I wasn’t taking time to refuel

myself. I did have the support and love of my husband, church family, and loved ones. That was

the gas that kept me going. But I was missing the transmission fluid. The fluid that allows the

transmission to shift gears. That’s a fluid that only I could provide. I had to pause and include in

my caregiver role, care for myself.

It’s Not a Sin

When we take care of ourselves it does not have to be at the expense of taking care of your

child. Taking care of you does not automatically translate into neglect. As a matter of fact, it is

quite the opposite. Care for others is pulled from deep reservoirs within the heart. You cannot

put out what is not inside of you. Make sure you take time to get your needs taken care of. It

will make the job a lot easier.

The Job Got Done

It was not easy, but the job got done. Eventually I was able to include myself in my caregiving

role. It was a delicate business. When I did something for myself I felt it was time wasted that

could have been used helping the kids. Yet, the better I felt the more I was able to help my

children. You can do it to! Love you as you love them! Have a Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

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